Healthy porn use is when it is incorporated with intentionality and choice, not as the default or as a total replacement for sexual pleasure.

Remember, desire comes in all shapes and sizes. You are not broken if you desire a lot of sex, and you are not broken if you desire little to no sex. Leaning into your body’s sexual cues and listening without judgement can lead to a whole lot of learning and exploration.

So now that we’ve broken down the difference between low desire and responsive desire in Part 1 of this blog, let’s explore how we can use this understanding to support more desire in our relationships going forward.

When someone feels they’re experiencing low desire, there is often a sense of hopelessness associated with this low, or lack of, desire that's being experienced. Though, when we actually get into the meat of the situation, I usually find that the person with self-described low/no desire is actually experiencing instead what is referred to as responsive desire.

Rejection is just as much part of the dating experience as the dating is, and let’s be real, rejection sucks, no matter who you are or how much you’ve worked on developing practices around self-soothing.

Amid the sea of dating apps and run clubs, dating looks very different these days. Many folks both in our sessions and outside of them, report being fatigued by dating apps and screens in favour of meeting new people in the wild and prioritising genuine, felt connection.

If you’ve ever struggled with low desire, you’re not alone. It’s a common experience, and the world is filled with advice on how to “fix” it. But what if we’re asking the wrong question? Instead of focusing on how to increase desire, consider this: how can you make the experience itself more pleasurable? This year, let’s shift our mindset and make pleasure the focal point of our intimate lives.

Start the new year by transforming your sex life! As you reflect on your goals and aspirations for the year ahead, don’t forget to include your sexual wellness in the mix. Setting sex-positive intentions can enhance pleasure, connection, and intimacy with yourself and your partner. In this guide, we explore how to differentiate between goals and intentions in the bedroom and why the latter may be the key to unlocking a more satisfying sex life in 2025.

Discover how shifting from goal-oriented pressure to intentional exploration can help you embrace more joy, curiosity, and sensuality without the fear of failure. Whether you're dealing with performance anxiety, want to improve connection, or simply want to explore new experiences, setting sexual intentions gives you the freedom to enjoy the journey.

Let’s be real, for people with vulvas, the holiday season and summer in general, can quite easily throw our bodies out of whack. Excess sugar, more alcohol, less sleep, more ocean time, more sweat, less routine, longer days with more engagements, less time; all of these things can contribute to throwing off our vulvar health.

The most common examples of how sex can be experienced differently for neurodivergent folks is when it comes to sensory stimulus, attention and communication. The experience of one or more of these differences can be significant factors in one’s relationship with sexual desire, sexual touch, and intimacy.