Healthy porn use is when it is incorporated with intentionality and choice, not as the default or as a total replacement for sexual pleasure.

Remember, desire comes in all shapes and sizes. You are not broken if you desire a lot of sex, and you are not broken if you desire little to no sex. Leaning into your body’s sexual cues and listening without judgement can lead to a whole lot of learning and exploration.

So now that we’ve broken down the difference between low desire and responsive desire in Part 1 of this blog, let’s explore how we can use this understanding to support more desire in our relationships going forward.

When someone feels they’re experiencing low desire, there is often a sense of hopelessness associated with this low, or lack of, desire that's being experienced. Though, when we actually get into the meat of the situation, I usually find that the person with self-described low/no desire is actually experiencing instead what is referred to as responsive desire.

Rejection is just as much part of the dating experience as the dating is, and let’s be real, rejection sucks, no matter who you are or how much you’ve worked on developing practices around self-soothing.

Amid the sea of dating apps and run clubs, dating looks very different these days. Many folks both in our sessions and outside of them, report being fatigued by dating apps and screens in favour of meeting new people in the wild and prioritising genuine, felt connection.

If you’ve ever struggled with low desire, you’re not alone. It’s a common experience, and the world is filled with advice on how to “fix” it. But what if we’re asking the wrong question? Instead of focusing on how to increase desire, consider this: how can you make the experience itself more pleasurable? This year, let’s shift our mindset and make pleasure the focal point of our intimate lives.

Start the new year by transforming your sex life! As you reflect on your goals and aspirations for the year ahead, don’t forget to include your sexual wellness in the mix. Setting sex-positive intentions can enhance pleasure, connection, and intimacy with yourself and your partner. In this guide, we explore how to differentiate between goals and intentions in the bedroom and why the latter may be the key to unlocking a more satisfying sex life in 2025.

Discover how shifting from goal-oriented pressure to intentional exploration can help you embrace more joy, curiosity, and sensuality without the fear of failure. Whether you're dealing with performance anxiety, want to improve connection, or simply want to explore new experiences, setting sexual intentions gives you the freedom to enjoy the journey.

Let’s be real, for people with vulvas, the holiday season and summer in general, can quite easily throw our bodies out of whack. Excess sugar, more alcohol, less sleep, more ocean time, more sweat, less routine, longer days with more engagements, less time; all of these things can contribute to throwing off our vulvar health.

The most common examples of how sex can be experienced differently for neurodivergent folks is when it comes to sensory stimulus, attention and communication. The experience of one or more of these differences can be significant factors in one’s relationship with sexual desire, sexual touch, and intimacy.

From reducing stress and helping with sleep, to giving your skin a radiant glow, it has been found that sexual pleasure offers a variety of benefits that can enhance both your physical and mental health. I’m here to advocate for more pleasure and better health with the evidence-backed ways sexual pleasure benefits you, other than it feeling ohhh so good!!

When individuals or couples present to sex therapy with concerns about their desire, I become curious about the role of conflict in the relationship. Is it high, low, medium? Does conflict lead to greater closeness, are there tools or resources in place, or is it completely unmanaged?

Dear higher libido partner, it may or may not come as a surprise that coming home from work, kicking up your feet and asking ‘what’s for dinner?’, shortly followed by ‘wanna bang tonight?’ is not really setting up an atmosphere for ripping one another's clothes off.

Context is one of the main topics that comes up in sex and relationship therapy, but what the heck does it mean and how to we use it to support our sex lives, and our desire, both solo and within our relationships?

When we are disconnected from our sexuality as our own, by us and for us, our sensuality, our pleasure, is then also not our own. Our sexuality often feels like it is not for us, but existent for the enjoyment and service of others, validated as real and functioning only through the engagement of someone else.

Pleasure mapping is a somatic exercise which helps people gain more knowledge and information about their body, as well as practice embodied awareness (i.e. being present to sensations that arise).

In the context of sex and pleasure, being body literate can also look like expanding your capacity to feel pleasure, knowing the specific types of touch that you enjoy, or knowing what taps your sexual accelerators and what slams on your sexual brakes.

How we think and feel about our bodies affects how we feel about ourselves in general in many ways, as well as how we show up in relationships, and how we engage in sex and intimacy both with ourselves and with our partners.

For many of us, we’re a lot more comfortable having sex than we are actually talking about it, even if we’ve had the same sexual partner for years, or even decades. We see this time and again at Good Vibes Clinic. Whether it is hesitancy around what a partner might say, or not knowing what we want to say ourselves, it can feel awkward or vulnerable to put these more sticky feelings and experiences into words, and even more so if there are existing difficulties with sex.

Human’s eroticism and attraction is mysterious. There are often elements of contradiction, challenge, and ambivalence that must be overcome in order to create intense eroticism.